making the 1st move。。。

Taking the first step is perhaps the most difficult thing to do in achieving a better life or simply sever ties that’s life wrecking. There are a lot of mental obstacles that make it difficult to take that first step. The agony of worrying about losing than thinking of gaining, those ‘What-if…’ risk factors or simply ending up feeling being irresponsible and useless.

There are many things in life that frighten people more than the unknown. Many of us prefer the status quo in our lives even if that means living below the ideal/preferred/poverty line or in a terrible dead end job or even in a bad relationship. It's very easy to settle for a less than ideal life. It's also not hard to get into a rut where efforts to make changes are few and far between. Often attempts at life improvement are ridiculed by others; or result in failure leaving the person discouraged and unwilling to try again. The fear of failure and being made a laughing stock are powerful enough to remove our motivation.

Another strong factor against life improvement is fear of loss. While on the surface it might not appear that we have much to lose, but in our mind, we want to hold onto what we have at the moment. So it seems the potential to gain is so much more than it actually exists! Silly but true. The fear of loss is one of the most powerful human emotions and is not easily removed from the picture. This! Is my weakness and I guess for many of you, my dear friends too.

I completely agree that life improvements can be hindered by friends, and bystanders who love to doubt, to ridicule or simply shoo-off ideas or plans that seems impossible to them, Yes! Them! Being honest and faithful in relationships, I've often found people, usually strangers circling above us questioning my sincerity as I took on heavier tasks to secure and to provide, to keep the flame going. In the beginning, I would let this get me down but now I’ve changed things. I surrounded myself with positive friends who are there for me and who support the things that I do to improve myself thus improving my life. I think that the best way to defeat ridicule - Remove the source. Yes, it hurts but I know it won’t be at their end thus, I learn to let go.

Friends who have nothing but negative thoughts and ridicule drain my energy. Believing in my dream is essential to get the motivation I need to achieve it. I simply can’t fool my own heart.